Daddyhunt Blog

July 29, 2010

Daddyhunt is looking for Guest Bloggers who are interested in joining the Daddyhunt team and getting paid to write about our favorite subject. If you are a Daddy and/or have lots of love for them, this is your chance to write about all elements of the Daddy lifestyle and share social commentary from Daddy's POV. We are open to all types of work from essays to interviews and reviews.

Professional writing experience is not mandatory (though it is a plus) if you have wit and experience behind your words.

What you need to apply for the gig :

- Tell us a bit about yourself.

- Send in 2-3 samples of your work.

- Tell us how much time can you commit to writing. Please be realistic. We need writers who can stick to a schedule and contribute multiple articles.

- Include your full contact details and link to your Daddyhunt profile.

Do not send any attachments or resumes.

Send all of the above to blog-samples@daddyhunt.com. We will only review complete applications and please be patient with us as we go through everything.

July 27, 2010

At Daddyhunt, we are always working to improve the user experience. We recently made a series of small but important feature enhancements that we are excited to tell you about:

New Members Section

Newest Members In Your State
Daddyhunt has added a section to the logged-in homepage to enable you to easily view the newest members from your state. Simply click on the links in the right column to view the profiles of Daddies and Hunters who joined in the past week. Help us welcome the 'fresh meat' by sending a friendly grope, email or unlocked pic.

Menu drop-downs

Design Enhancements
Roll over the navigation bar with your mouse. Notice anything different? How about some flashy new drop-down submenus? The new submenus make it quick and easy to reach any subsection of Daddyhunt. We also recently added green 'online now' indicators throughout the site to let you know when a buddy or favorite is online without having to click and open his profile.

Public Profiles

Public Profiles
Link directly to your profile with improved Daddyhunt public profiles. If you've enabled this feature in your account preferences, your public profile will be available at http://www.daddyhunt.com/profile/your-username and will show your basic profile details along with any G-rated photos in your public gallery. Private or adult photos will ONLY be visible to logged in members.

July 23, 2010

Hey guys! Our friends at Freshpair have put together a contest just for us. Five lucky winners can get some cool underwear from high end companies like Expose, 2xist and Piss & Vinegar.

Here’s how it works, leave a comment telling us what sort of underwear floats your boat and why. Do Trunks make you hot? Are Jockstraps the only thing you want your lovers to own? Does the vision of a stud in Long-johns leave you drooling? Are you the classic Boxer type? Or do you like to be surprised with a variety?

We will pick 5 lucky winners randomly on Monday. Remember you need to give us the what and why of it to be in the running. Sorry but the contest is only open to US residents. Good luck and have a great weekend!

July 21, 2010

By now we're sure many of you have heard of the incident in New Jersey where a man was shot and killed for cruising an undercover police officer.

Originally Posted via the Advocate :

CEO Killed at Gay Cruising Spot

Credit Union of Atlanta CEO DeFarra Gaymon was shot and killed by a police officer in Newark, New Jersey last week after allegedly propositioning the officer at a gay cruising area.

Gaymon stopped by the Branch Brook Park area while en route to his 30th high school reunion. The neighborhood is known for attracting sexual activity and male prostitutes, according to a report in The New York Times.

According to Essex County prosecutor Robert D. Laurino, the 29-year-old officer, whose name hasn’t been released, claims he fired in self-defense. He says when he attempted to arrest Gaymon for lewd behavior, he ran and, when cornered, tried to disarm the officer.

The officer shot Gaymon once. He died three hours later at nearby University Hospital.

Gaymon was married and the father of four children

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Now, we were not there so we don't know what exactly happened. Is the cop a sadistic homophobe? Did Mr. Gaymon's life flash before his eyes as the cop identified himself and he went into totally freak-out/panic mode?

Whatever happened, it's sad it had to go this far. A life was lost and and so many people will suffer the repercussions.

The closet can be such an evil place.

July 16, 2010

With a very rigid idea of what sexuality should be, American men are taught to be disgusted by even the slightest thought of two men engaging in any sort of sexual activity. The effect this indoctrination has on men usually manifests into self-hate for gay men and absolute homophobia for straight men, because if you’re told something long and hard enough, it becomes truth. But as the culture continues to shift and “gay” becomes less demonized by society, straight men are slowly realizing that gay guys can make okay friends, and gay men are realizing that not every straight man are repulsed by them. And with this epiphany, comes another set of problems.

Like many gay men, I grew up with mostly female friends as other guys, not having dealt with my own sexuality, freaked me out and made me feel unlike them. So when I did give up the ghost and identified gay, my shift came to befriending other gay men to share collective experience, and get a sense of male bonding that I had never gotten in my youth. As I navigated through this transition, and dealt with my own masculinity (which was in opposition to the nelly queen I had been told I must be) I began to see the complicated balance that can be the straight guy/gay guy relationship.

As unfortunate as is it that straight men are taught to abhor the sissy, it is equally unfortunate that there is a sense of bragging rights to bagging a straight guy, which has also helped pushed away the fact that yes… gay guys and straight guys can be friends. When I used to hear gay me discuss their attempts and/or successes with hooking up with a guy that identified as straight, my immediate thought was… well, all you’ve really done is hooked up with a gay guy that hasn’t dealt with it yet. And while I think that is sometimes, or maybe mostly the case, I realize now that it’s not a hard and fast rule, and only serves to distance ourselves from one another more.

As gay men, it’s hard to see where the straight man is coming from because we ourselves put so much on their interest in friendship. Why on earth would a straight guy want to hang out with a gay guy? We act like the most ignorant straight homophobe when we jump to the conclusion that his straight label is nothing more than a figment of his closet, and his interest in us MUST be sexual. How on earth are we to form positive “normal” friendships with straight guys if we ourselves challenge their sexuality or even worse… try to get some? Because straight guys (real straight guys) don’t like being hit on by men. At all. It’s not the same when we have a woman into us as again, men are taught very very early to be absolutely repulsed by dude on dude action. We can’t change that, but we are in control of our own actions.

So why do we do this? Why must we attack the overly friendly straight guy that just wants another buddy? Well, after we have traveled our own path of self-hate, there is a sense of pride with men that got past all of that and said, “Yeah, I’m gay.” It’s a profound emotional breakthrough that we as out gay men have dealt with an overcome and therefore, have a sense that we “get” things a little more than our brothers and sisters that haven’t quite gotten there yet. So we meet a guy that says he’s straight, yet inexplicably wants to hang out so we say to ourselves, “here’s a great story I can tell the boys…” (Men, despite their sexual preference love a conquest. It’s just how we’re built.)

When I was younger I fell hard for a straight boy I was very close to. This yearning for something that my straight friend had no intention of giving into unquestionably put emotional damage on our friendship and even just myself. I would question his actions and tortuously ponder any glimpse of remote intimacy we had as a sign that yes, he felt like I did. Well… he didn’t. He never did, and never was going to. I thankfully never pushed the envelope too much and we have remained friends (I got over my futile crush) but many gay men do not restrain themselves, and damage friendships that could have been. And what kind of sign does that send to the straight guy? Don’t try to be friends with a gay guy, they’ll just try to sleep with you and get weird.

As I became more comfortable with myself and masculinity, I simultaneously fell in with a group of straight guys and formed a pseudo-fraternity that involved all-guy weekends camping, away from woman and society, and where sexuality was completely put on hold. As it evolved, and I was comfortable enough to be who I was without injecting my sexuality into the situation, something dynamic happened… I experienced male bonding that didn’t involve any aspect of sex. It became very clear that straight men do have a magical bond with each other that lets them relax a bit and be who they are with each other. Without women around whom they feel they need to impress or prove their masculinity with, these guys just chilled out. And what really cracked me up, was their interest in getting very very drunk and dancing. Just like us! Without woman around, they were open enough to be free from the shackles that our sexual rigidity forces them to. And that helped me become one of them, and not just “the gay guy.”

This is not to say that things haven’t happened to me that got a little sticky with “straight boys.” Yes I too have had a curious guy come onto me, and as I mature I realize that there is weight and responsibility that comes with another man opening up to you in this way as it is most likely their first time. I have run the gamut from accusing these guys of being gay, to just being a sounding board for them to express themselves. And as I become more centered myself, I realize the leap that many of these guys are taking with me, and respect that. But another major hurtle we as gay men need to get past, is realize that a little same-sex attraction isn’t necessarily a lay-over to gay-town. It can, despite a lifetime of being told to hate, be just like a girl that’s interested in making out with another girl sometime, which is more socially accepted. But given what we’ve been told, it’s hard to wrap our heads around that for gay and straight men alike. But I’ve hooked up with guys that have since gotten married and had children, and at this point find nothing wrong with that. Am I supposed to question their sexuality for the rest of their lives when it seems they have made up their own minds for themselves? How is that fair? And who are we to make those rulings just because we successfully, and enthusiastically, got our same-sex on? Does it mean we know who they are more than they do?

There is an obvious sense of brotherhood that resides in a group of male gay friends, and the same goes for a group of straight men. As the views on sexuality continue to shift culturally, maybe we will realize that these groups don’t have to be mutually exclusive. Sure there are things I can do with my gay buddies I can’t with my straight, and I suppose vice versa, but those are barriers that we, as gay men, need to help slowly break down. We’d come further faster if we helped to change what straight men think of us as men and as friends… versus us thinking of them as fresh meat.

July 15, 2010

I just read this article in the current issue of Time Out New York and feel inspired. Choreographer Paul-Andre Fortier is in the midst of a world tour of his solo performance "30x30". A 30 minute piece performed outdoors for 30 days, the story is that of a man trying to find his place in the city. He has danced in the streets of Japan, France, Rome and will be in New York City dancing rain or shine at One New York Plaza starting on Friday the 16th.

Some interesting quotes from the article :

"There are not enough older men dancing. I think there is poetry in the aging body that is very exciting. "

“This solo is the most demanding thing I’ve done. When you dance on a stage, you are protected; when you’re outside, the sky is so high! For me, it’s been a learning process about focusing. I’m doing it all wrong. Dancers fight for a sprung floor, for the right temperature in the theater and for having a day off. I dance on concrete. I dance in the rain and in the cold, and I have no day off for 30 days.”

I think I have a new Crush.

Fortier Danse-Creation

July 13, 2010

I was bopping along online yesterday and I come across an article for an App by the name of Avoidr. The idea behind Avoidr is for it to assist you in steering clear of people who's path you don't want to cross. iPhone, Droid and BlackBerry users rejoice. We now have the beginnings of the Anti-Social network and a way to take stalking to a whole new level.

Now, I’m a BlackBerry boy myself (Apple cult followers don’t try to convert me!) and I have a handful of helpful 3rd party Apps taking up space. MyGayGo helps me find LGBT friendly businesses when I’m out of town. GoogleMaps is great when I’m deep in neighborhoods I don’t know well. Especially when I’m doing the well earned walk of shame at 7am on a Sunday after one on one time with a hot Daddy. The Fandango App is perfect when I want to check the time and place of a flick on a whim.

But do I really need an App that tells me where that Leather Daddy who’s bondage skills rate about negative five (found that out the hard way) is tonight so I can make sure I’m not around? I’m man enough to nod my head in greeting and keep it moving. And why the hell am I keeping track of people I don’t care for anyway? Sounds sort of ass backwards to me guys.

So, what Apps do you use and can’t live without and what Apps do you think the time creating would have been better spent watching paint dry?

July 9, 2010

Originally Posted via the New York Times :

"A federal judge in Massachusetts found Thursday that a law barring the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriage is unconstitutional, ruling that gay and lesbian couples deserve the same federal benefits as heterosexual couples.

Judge Joseph L. Tauro of United States District Court in Boston sided with the plaintiffs in two separate cases brought by the state attorney general and a gay rights group.

Although legal experts disagreed over how the rulings would fare on appeal, the judge’s decisions were nonetheless sure to further inflame the nationwide debate over same-sex marriage and gay rights.


If the rulings find their way to the Supreme Court and are upheld there, they will put same-sex marriage within the constitutional realm of protection, just as interracial marriage has been for decades. Seeking that protection is at the heart of both the Massachusetts cases and a federal case pending in California over the legality of that state’s ban on same-sex marriage..."

Read the full article at the New York Times

July 7, 2010

Originally posted on Fleshbot :

"Flickr user ttyyttyy555 loves fur so much that he spends his free time photoshopping it onto hot, hairless models. Since he leaves the unedited photos up for side-by-side comparison, can we finally say that one is better than the other?

If indeed the only change he makes to these models is the addition of a few pixilated follicles of hair, you have to admit that the transformations are pretty incredible. We've long professed a preference for hairy guys, but we never realized quite how dramatically a little chest hair and a mustache can change your entire look. Ultimately, the amount of body hair you think looks best on a guy comes down to personal preference, but we think there are a few cases where one look or the other is definitely best. What do you think?"

Post on Fleshbot (NSFW)



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July 6, 2010

What a pleasant surprise to power up my trusty computer this morning and have the Google doodle remind me that it is the 103rd birthday of one of my favorite artists : Frida Kahlo. In 2008 I saw her work up close for the first time at the Philadelphia Museum of Art and like most cases when you can see something you have revered up close with your own eyes, my admiration for her only deepened. What's better then a rebel without a cause? A rebel with one.

Earlier this year, I was turned on to the work of Nahum Zenil. Openly gay and a strong advocate for the LGBT movement in Mexico, he also has this knack for simplistic and raw self portraiture but with a style of his own. Here is some of his work.

Who are some of your favorite artists?

Nahum Zenil at QueerArts.org / Nahum Zenil Show Review