Daddyhunt Blog Posts from September 2011

I wonder what that beautiful face is thinking?

I don't know about all of you, but as we transition into Autumn and things start to slow down, I find myself a bit deeper in thought. Some of it's a reflection on the year gone by, but most of it is about what's to come. For some reason, Fall always seems like the perfect season to sit down, realign your thoughts, and reconnect with your goals.

So tell us dear members, what's on your mind?

And speaking of deep thoughts, we'll be discussing James Baldwin's Giovanni's Room later this week for our first ever Daddyhunt Book Club. You got a pretty lengthy extension, but even if you didn't read the book, the topics will be broad enough for everyone to engage in. We do hope you'll join in the discussion.

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Recently, I brought you a lube recommendation, this week, a related recommendation for condoms. Our sexual drive is so strong, it's often hard to objectively evaluate the risk/reward ratio of unprotected sex, and many of us don't use condoms as often as we know we should. Sex has always been dangerous, but life is full of risks we take every day - many -- like texting and driving -- more reckless than not using a condom. As if we needed another reason to use them, Japanese researchers recently reported the emergence of a cephalosporin-resistant strain of gonorrhea, at the same time that the CDC announced an increasing resistance to cephalosporin antibiotics in US strains of the disease.  While gonorrhea is rarely fatal, the complications of living with the disease untreated are significant.

If a better condom would help you help you use one more often, I offer these two recommendations: For well-endowed guys, LifeStyles Kyng are an XL size condom that offer a better fit and less latex odor than the better-known Trojan Magnum (no difference between the blue and gold packaging). For daddies and hunters of normal size, the Japanese-manufactured Crownand Beyond Seven condoms are thin as possible, offering maximum sensation. Whatever condoms you use, I’ve linked to...

We're proud to announce Daddyhunt member, leatherrubberbear, as the winner of Phoenix Bar's Daddy Bear 2011. You may remember we mentioned the Southern Decadence event just a few weeks back, and we're so happy one of our own claimed the title. leatherrubberbear is no stranger to winning though, as he's won Mr. Spearhead Toronto 2011 and Mr. Bear Toronto 1999. We got to interview him briefly and ask him a few winning questions.

We see you've won a lot of Daddy contests, what's your secret?
What's my secret? Simply, I am just ME. I am who I am (my profile says it all!) I take on contests primarily for two reasons; firstly, I'm always thrilled to represent great businesses and organizations; and secondly, I thrive on the opportunity, as a titleholder, to take on the necessary and essential work of voluntary fundraising for local charities in our communities. This October, 2011, as a result of my fundraising pursuits as Mr. Spearhead 2011, the Toronto People With AIDS Foundation will be awarding me with the "2011 Friends of the Foundation Award for Outstanding Community Support". So, my secret isn't really a secret at all! It's all about knowing who I am, establishing myself as a mentor within the community and knowing want I want to do as an ambassador to that title. It's all about having fun too!

Do you have any advice for other daddies or hunters?
"Gay" is a big place and Daddyhunt provides a unique opportunity for Daddy's and Hunter's to cyber-cruise globally....

No one wants to die alone. To think that we won't be surrounded by friends or family in our last years, days, or minutes, is a pretty unsettling thought for most. But for many elderly gays, this is exactly what they experience. With partners passing before them, little to no familial contact, and in a nursing home where friends are scarce, the fate of our gay golden years doesn't sound so heavenly. The New York Times posted a piece by gay geriatrician, Manuel A. Eskildsen, about a patient of his, a gay man in his late 90s, who recently passed away. For this man's generation, and to a degree the generations surrounding him, the luxury of coming out and leading a full, rich gay life was never really an option.

We've talked about growing older as a gay man on here before, but it's something that isn't really top of the list for many. What would be great is if there was a way for these older gentlemen to connect to each other, or better yet for us younger and able gentlemen to seek them out and visit when possible. But as Dr. Eskildsen notes, "The task is complicated by the fact that these men and women may be all but invisible to us. Even people who were able to come out may find themselves retreating into the closet when they are forced to move into...