Posts by Billy Kolber

Billy Kolber
November 10, 2011
Category: Wellness
Say No to Vampire Power!

No, I’m not talking about the Twilight series. I’m talking about the trickle of electricity that our cell phone chargers, televisions and other electronics continue to draw when they’re turned off, but still plugged in. Did you know it constitutes 5-22% of America’s total electricity usage? I’ve started using a Belkin Conserve Energy Saving Power Strip to fully power-down my media center when I’m not home. (It even has a remote control, so I don’t even have to get down on my knees or reach around to flip the switch.) I’ve shared a lot of green living tips on BillyKnowsBest.com, check them out and share some of yours in the comments below.

Billy Kolber
October 27, 2011
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Cruises

In 1992, I co-founded OUT&ABOUT, a gay travel newsletter that chronicled and catalyzed the mainstreaming of gay travel, while opening up a world of travel opportunities for gay men. It’s almost hard to imagine it now, but back then, no mainstream travel companies were marketing to gays, and two men frequently had trouble getting hotel rooms with one bed. Gay cruises then offered a unique opportunity to really be yourself and revel in the strangely wondrous sensation of not being a sexual minority.

Even though gays are now openly welcomed in so much of the world, the appeal of gay cruising hasn’t changed. If the Atlantis ads running here on DaddyHunt have made you curious about taking your first gay cruise, here are seven things you should know:

1.You won’t ever feel “trapped on a boat.” These ships are larger than the largest resort you’ve ever been to. In addition to the days spent in port, you can always find parts of the ship that are completely deserted.

2. It’s not a floating bathhouse. With thousands of gay men, you can find sex 24/7 if that's what you're looking for. But you’ll also find non-stop entertainment, dining and resort activities.

3. Almost everyone has a better time than they imagined they would.

4. The only people who should think twice about going are single guys who never initiate a conversation but then complain that no one talks to them, and couples struggling with fidelity issues.

5. The all-inclusive pricing is a great value. But note: most guests spend...

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Billy Kolber
October 20, 2011
Category: Gay Culture
The Scent of A Man

I started wearing cologne back in high school, and worked my way though Polo, Grey Flannel and Farenheit before settling on Cacharel Pour Homme as my signature scent though most of my 20s and 30s. I wore so much of it at the time, that my co-workers could smell me in the office before they saw me, and even an hour after I left. I don’t remember exactly when I figured out that the guys I wanted to bed weren’t impressed by my French cologne, but I try to remind myself of that phase and go easy on the hunters I meet these days who are easily over-doused with the scent du jour.

Personally, I’m drawn to more natural smelling guys: not over-marinated, but that clean, ever-so-slightly musky scent that develops naturally after a recent shower and an hour of manual labor. I cultivate that kind of smell myself through a judicious, non-daily use of an unscented deodorant , and an occasional fine mist of cologne, not sprayed on my skin, but in the air above me, allowing it to sparingly settle on my head and shoulders. I’ve written about my two current favorite colognes on...

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Billy Kolber
October 13, 2011
Category: Gay Culture
grooming

There's no question there's something sexy about a guy standing at the sink, shaving his beard, naked but for a towel. It's classic Daddy imagery, and many of us associate it with our fathers, our first connection with our manly heritage -- and maybe the first visible sign of becoming a man. The memories I have of my father shaving are really vivid, though there's nothing sexual about them. What I see is my dad with little torn pieces of toilet paper stuck randomly on his neck, each covering a razor nick that would not stop bleeding otherwise. Although I'm grateful for many of the things I inherited from my dad, my easily-irritated neck isn't one of them.

I grew my first beard in high school to avoid shaving as much of my face as possible. But as I've gotten older, I've gravitated more towards a mustache, which appears to be a really good look for me, judging by its popularity with the Hunters. (I don't know which bother's my mom more: the mustache itself, or her relative lack of influence in trying to get me to shave it off.) But sporting a mustache means even more of a shaving challenge. Fortunately, shaving technology has dramatically improved since the two-bladed days of my youth. The 5-bladed razor I use now shaves super smoothly, causing only the rarest nick. And the old-timey barbershop scent of my Proraso shave cream brings an idealized masculine aspect to my shaving ritual. Finished off with a high-tech aftershave serum that cools and calms my...

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Billy Kolber
October 6, 2011
Category: Gay Culture
underwear

The first “pornography” I ever kept under my mattress was a Jockey underwear ad from Time Magazine (circa mid-‘70s) that featured nine baseball players in their briefs. I, um, “referenced” that torn-out page for years before discovering more advanced fantasy material, but not before it permanently wired my brain. I’m still a sucker for a hot guy in a pair of briefs (or Speedo or jockstrap). Apparently, I’m not alone. From the moment Calvin Klein put Thomas Hintnaus’ bulging crotch on a huge billboard in Times Square, gays have been gaga for fashion underwear.

Even though we know we’ll never look like the model on the box, somehow deep inside, maybe we hope wearing it will make us more attractive. To some extent, it does – possibly because it’s taken a couple of pages from the Victoria Secret marketing playbook, with fabrics and styling to enhance the bulge and the butt. But more likely because it makes us feel more sexually empowered. And that is always attractive.

For the latest in underwear fashions online, check out my last underwear post on BillyKnowsBest.com. And to open this week's discussion: Daddies: What underwear turns you on the most when you pull down your Hunter's pants? Hunters: What underwear of Daddy's gets your mojo going?

Billy Kolber
September 22, 2011
Category: Sexuality
Quest for the Best: Condoms

Recently, I brought you a lube recommendation, this week, a related recommendation for condoms. Our sexual drive is so strong, it's often hard to objectively evaluate the risk/reward ratio of unprotected sex, and many of us don't use condoms as often as we know we should. Sex has always been dangerous, but life is full of risks we take every day - many -- like texting and driving -- more reckless than not using a condom. As if we needed another reason to use them, Japanese researchers recently reported the emergence of a cephalosporin-resistant strain of gonorrhea, at the same time that the CDC announced an increasing resistance to cephalosporin antibiotics in US strains of the disease.  While gonorrhea is rarely fatal, the complications of living with the disease untreated are significant.

If a better condom would help you help you use one more often, I offer these two recommendations: For well-endowed guys, LifeStyles Kyng are an XL size condom that offer a better fit and less latex odor than the better-known Trojan Magnum (no difference between the blue and gold packaging). For daddies and hunters of normal size, the Japanese-manufactured Crownand Beyond Seven condoms are thin as possible, offering maximum sensation. Whatever condoms you use, I’ve linked to...

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Billy Kolber
September 8, 2011
Category: Sexuality
Quest for The Best: Lube

Relationships are sticky. Good lube may not solve your relationship issues, but it sure can help reduce friction -- especially in the bedroom.

When I first started having sex back in the last century, there were only two types of lubricants: oil based and water-based. Oil-based lubes provided the slickest lubrication, but weren’t condom safe. And water-based lubes tended to get sticky and dry out quickly. Then came the silicone revolution started by Eros. Silicone-based lubes were slick and condom-safe. But they were expensive and also really hard to wash off. (Which for me resulted in one very embarrassing Thanksgiving, when my aunt asked what in god's name I got all over her sheets that she couldn’t wash out!) Competition has brought the price down, but I still don’t like that slick filmy-ness that stays on your skin, even after washing.

Then, in London, I discovered Liquid Silk , the first hybrid lube. It's a creamy, light-weight, water-based/silicone hybrid that gives you the best of both types: long-lasting slickness that doesn’t gets sticky, yet rinses off easily with just water, leaving no residue. It's condom-friendly, non-staining, unscented, and comes in a convenient pump jar....

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Billy Kolber
September 1, 2011
Category: Gay Culture
The Hardbody Chronicles

Back in the mid ‘90s, I was the editor of OUT&ABOUT, a travel newsletter that chronicled the emergence of gay travel as a mainstream travel niche market. It was a time when the devastation and activism of the early AIDS crisis catalyzed an enormous cultural coming out. From the founding of OUT magazine in 1992 to Ellen Degeneres’ “Yep, I’m gay” Time magazine cover in 1997, gay life was suddenly visible in new and profound ways, none more glamorous or shocking than the gay party circuit. As a travel journalist (and an eager Daddy hunter), I was on the periphery of the circuit, but my friends Jake Smyth and Luca Barbieri were very much at its epicenter. Their stories of that time are too scandalous to put in print, and too good not to tell… so they’ve written a roman á clef – a novel in which real persons or actual events figure under disguise. If you were a part of the circuit scene, you’ll no doubt recognize a few of the thinly-veiled characters, like the owners of a Chelsea club named “Jocks” where muscle guys stripped down for a shower show on the bar. Whether or not you can decipher the characters, the novel is a vivid recollection of the decadent excesses of the time (sex, muscles, drugs, and money), a titillating and touching story of life, love, loss and redemption played out on an international stage of glamorous beaches and legendary parties.

Pick up a copy of...

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Billy Kolber
August 11, 2011
Category: Entertainment
The Dirty Truth about Rebates

I must have been no more than six years old when I tried to redeem my first coupon at the supermarket. It was a 10 cent coupon for a box of salt, and I thought it meant that I would get the salt for 10 cents, as in “pay 10 cents, and you’re off!” Despite my youthful misunderstanding, coupons are straight forward. But not so with rebates. The truth about rebates is that the stores and manufacturers often make the rebate submission process so complicated, that many consumers don’t complete it correctly, if they complete it at all.

For years, I’ve bought all of my Apple products from MacMall because they offer great “free with rebate” bonuses, and I’m the kind of guy who’s not intimidated by the onerous UPC-clipping, receipt copying and proof-of-purchase proffering that these offers require. And Daddy is prepared to fight any “incomplete submission” rejections. But my favorite rebate programs are from Rite-Aid and Staples. These rebates are completed online and require no documentation beyond entering your receipt information.

You can read more about my rebate tips and adventures on BillyKnowsBest, but I’m curious for a show of comments: How many of you use rebates? And any great or nightmare rebate stories?

Billy Kolber
August 4, 2011
Category: Entertainment
A Quickie in the Kitchen

There’s a strong history of men cooking on my father’s side of the family, and so I started early in the kitchen. I remember making lasagna for my beloved 3rd grade teacher, Mrs. Gerry, and a complicated Grand Marnier coffee cake for most family holiday meals. I still love preparing meals for my family and friends. A home cooked meal is one of the most genuine ways to show you care about someone, and there’s a reason they say the quickest way to a man’s heart is through is stomach!

Home cooking doesn’t have to be elaborate or complicated, just tasty, hopefully healthy, and served with love. (In my dating life, I found that home cooked meals served after love were particularly well-received ;) While I’ve become quite proficient in the kitchen, it’s often my simplest meals that leave the biggest impression. Whether you’re a Daddy or a Hunter, learning a few tricks in the kitchen can help keep the sparks flowing in the bedroom. I’d like to share a few kitchen secrets that have served me really well over the years.

A Spicy, Tasty Kick

A quick squeeze of Amore Garlic Paste and Amore Hot Pepper Paste is the easiest way to add flavor and heat to almost anything you cook, with no fuss or mess. Store the tubes in your fridge and you’ll always have flavor at the ready. Err on the side of less paste – you can always add more to increase flavor, but too much pepper paste...

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