Gay Daddy & Bear Blog: Age Appropriate

August 5, 2013
Category: Eye Candy
Gay Vintage Swimsuits

In the world of gay swimwear the speedo reigns supreme. Not that anyone's really complaining. I mean let's be honest, on the right guy with the right fill it can bring the gays to their knees. But after a while, they do get a little monotonous. Aside from the easy to imagine under package, there's not much excitement when it comes to the speedo or men's swimsuits in general. So it's nice to be reminded of the different styles that used to populate the beaches courtesy of the Underwear Expert. They've compiled a gallery of 10 gorgeous shots that show off some incredible vintage styles. Sure some of them definitely look dated (and occasionally ridiculous) but most feel like they were just taken this weekend with an Instagram filter. It's nice to be reminded of the variety and styles that decades of men's fashion have compiled. What's old is new again is a common theme amongst men's styles and judging from this gallery, I wonder what next summer will bring.

What kind of swimsuit do you prefer on yourself and on others?

August 4, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Gay Bear Rapper Big Dipper

Big gay bear rapper Big Dipper is going the Kickstarter route to fund his next video and we want to help. The new video will be just as artful, salacious, and fun as his last few - and something you'll want to watch over and over again. I had the pleasure of seeing Big Dipper live during Urban Bear Week in NYC and he's a crowd pleaser. From his incredible lyrics to his booty poppin' beats, this is a guy who owns the stage, the mic, and pretty much everyone who's watching. If you're able help a bear brother out and throw him some coin so we can all enjoy the magic that is a big gay bear rapper.

You can see more of Big Dipper on Tumblr.

And you can see nearly all of him in this hilarious, goofy sexy video. I love it when the juice gets in his eye!

Official MISTER
July 17, 2013
Category: Entertainment
Sexy Summer Movie Daddies

The dog days of summer are upon us, and for us, there’s no place better to cool off than at the local multiplex. But it’s not just an extra-large tub of popcorn and a box of Junior Mints we’ll be enjoying with the lights down low and the AC pumping. From furry funnymen, bearded bad boys, rough-and-tumble renegades, and a comic book character whose claws we’d gladly sink our flesh into, there’s plenty of daddy eye candy to savor as well! Here’s our list of the top five Hollywood hunks we can’t wait to spend some quality time in the dark with over the next few weeks. Let’s start the show:

1. Hugh Jackman in “The Wolverine”

MR. Jackman if you’re nasty! Everyone’s favorite X-Man once again bares his adamantium claws (but more importantly, his chiseled, hairy chest) in this action-packed sequel to his blockbuster 2009 spinoff. This time around, Wolverine says konichiwa to the island of Japan, where he encounters an enemy from his past that will impact his future. No matter how you slice it, this one’s a must-see. Opens July 27.

2. Bruce Willis in "Red 2"

OK, so the last "Die Hard" installment didn't exactly have us screaming "Yippee-ki-ya!" but we're ready let MR. Willis make it up to us with this high-octane action-comedy sequel to the sleeper...

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July 16, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Bear Week Provincetown

With Provincetown Bear Week that began last Saturday, we couldn't help but get nostalgic for last year's trip in which we investigated all things bear. We even tried to get to the bottom of why bears woof. If you've never been and you're into the fun, friendly, lovable bears, make it a point to get up their over the week (July 13th - 20th) or start planning for next year. It's a great place to make friends and cuddle up with some really incredible guys from all over the world.

Take a look at our adventures from last year's trip:

July 8, 2013
Category: Relationships
Gay Men Relationship Status

Has this ever happened to you: meet a guy, flirt a bunch, exchange numbers, make plans to meet...and then find out he has a boyfriend. Sadly, it happens more than it should. With couples in different arrangements and singles with different objectives navigating the pick up water can be difficult. I'm of the belief that if there's clear interest from one party, the other is obligated to bring up the boyfriend (in some way) within the first interaction. I'll even give a little leeway here and say the first two interactions given how hard it can be to weave that point in naturally. In chatting with some coupled friends though, they believe that they're not obligated to reveal a boyfriend. Claiming that they've often been met with attitude or anger in the assumption that they were even hitting on them and that often times conversations are struck up for the sake of conversation and/or friendship. We decided that there's no hard and fast rule when it comes to this, but that it really should be a case be case basis. That being said, I still believe that it should be worked in fairly early on to set the stage of the forthcoming interactions.

But what say you, how soon in should a person reveal their relationship status?

July 2, 2013
Category: Sexuality
Gay Men Sexual Walkabout List

We all have our bucket lists. That ever growing lists of things we need to complete before we die. Whether it be bungee jumping or visiting Fiji, there are plenty of action items we need to "check the box" on before we can consider our lives fully lived. But what about our sexual lives? There are so many things to explore when it comes to our own sexual fulfillment and often times we let the years (or relationships) pass by before ever completing them. As Jenna Maroney on 30 Rock* exemplified, we all need a sexual walk about before we settle down with someone. A sexual walkabout is similar to a bucket list, in that it's an opportunity to do all the things you've ever wanted and/or discover what you're truly into. For some, it really is a checklist. A friend of mine wanted to make sure he tried every "flavor" of man and explored every ethnicity before he settled down with the man he'll soon be marrying. It's about getting things out of your system so you're never left wondering one day what you've missed. For others, it really is a sexual exploration to figure out our very complex desires and learn what turns us on. With so many fetishes and situations in which to have sex, truly understanding what makes us light up the most in bed can be long journey. In some ways, it's more about being open to what's out there and not limiting the possibilities of what makes our dicks tick.

A sexual walkabout (or even awakening) can happen at any age and I encourage each and every one of you to take one yourself. As long as you're safe (and have your partner's blessing...

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June 24, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Men PDA Holding Hands

When you're at an event that's 95% straight men and women, the last thing you'd expect to see is two men being affectionate towards one another so openly. Or at least that's what I had come to believe. But there I was, in Dover, Delaware no less, where not one but several gay couples were holding hands, each other, and dancing affectionately with one another in a sea of heterosexuality. It was at the Firefly Music Festival where the atmosphere was decidedly young and fratty that my mind was blown at how these young gays were so open and nonchalant about their public displays of affection. It was actually pretty amazing and gave me a lot of hope for the future. Because no one batted an eye as the couple waiting for food held each other and placed a few loving kisses on one another neck till their nachos were served. Or while in midst of another group of guys two young lovers started making out shirtless with one another. Now it's one thing to be in a predominantly straight venue, but when it's fueled by alcohol you really do never know what kind of reactions could be triggered which is why I'm generally in the camp of being cautious with PDA. My friends and I were a little in awe of these young gays in their early 20s and their unabashed confidence in being gay. Just another reminder at far we've really come in ways we don't think about often.

Do you find that, as this next generation comes of age, younger gays are more open and affectionate in public?

June 16, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Daddy Celebrities

Well boys, we did it. We're officially a trend. Or so says New York Magazine. In their article "Rise of the 'Daddies': A New (and Sexy) Gay Niche", they explore the growing popularity surround the term "daddy" and the type of guys associated with it. But to all of us, who have been on this site for years or sought it out more recently, we know the myriad of joys that come with being (and being attracted to) daddies. Articles like these come and go, and if it gives more attention to the daddy crowd I'm all for it, but I just want to be clear that "the rise of the 'daddies'" is not a new and growing trend. And more importantly, it's not something that's going anywhere either. It's always been a part of our community and I'd venture to say it always will be. And I'm thankful for that.

This article does echo something this community and blog have been pointing out for years, which is that "daddy" can mean any number of things depending on who you talk to. So if this article makes someone feel more secure with the moniker or allow them to really own who they are, then that's what I'll call progress.

What do you think about the article? Is the daddy world one that's growing in popularity? And, just for ol' times sake, what is your definition of a daddy?

Official MISTER
June 14, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Yigit Pura Gay Pastry Chef

MR. Yigit Pura is this week's Real Man We Admire.

We're all about a nice set of "cakes," but what really makes us melt quicker than tempered chocolate is a guy who can bake one from scratch. It's a recipe that this week's Real Man We Admire, Yigit Pura, has down pat. Not only is this openly gay pastry chef one delicious dish, he's also making some pretty sweet moves when it comes to supporting the LGBT community.

Reality-TV fans no doubt recognize this baking beauty as the winner of the first season of Bravo’s “Top Chef: Just Desserts,” where he showcased his expertise in the kitchen and his ability to create all sorts of mouth-watering morsels with just seconds to spare. It’s a talent that took shape while growing up in Ankara, Turkey, and later honed at some of the country’s finest restaurants, including Le Cirque 2000, Daniel, and the Four Seasons Hotel. Since taking that culinary crown, he's gone on to become one of his industry’s most sought-after chefs and personalities, opening the hugely successful Tout Sweet Pâtisserie in San Francisco’s bustling Union Square neighborhood and penning his first-ever cookbook, Sweet Alchemy, which will hit bookstore shelves later this year.

Pretty impressive stuff for someone who’s just 32 years old, but it’s Pura's commitment to the community that’s truly the icing on the cake. Over the years, he's worked to promote a number...

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Official Daddyhunt
June 11, 2013
Category: Gay Culture
Father's Day Gifts Gay Daddy

Father’s Day is this weekend, but why should biological dads get to have all the fun? Gay daddies deserve to be celebrated, too, so we're officially renaming June 16 Daddy's Day in their honor! To help you give the big daddy in your life the extra-special day he deserves, we've come up with five great gift ideas you probably won't read about anywhere else.

Leather Daddy

leather daddy sheets

We'd all love to surprise the leather daddy in our life with a bitchin' motorbike. Too bad it would leave most of our bank accounts bound and gagged. Take your daddy for a different kind of ride instead on Nasty Pig's rubber Playsheet! This soft rubber bedspread hold its grip, so you can get busy losing yours. When you're done abusing them, just toss them in the wash. $200-$250; available at

Sugar Daddy

sugar daddy credit card holder jack spade

Cash might be king, but plastic is fantastic (especially when you're not the one getting the bill)! Help your sugar daddy keep his Amex in check with a stylish credit card holder. We love these handsome...

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