Relationship Status: Single
***UPDATED AUGUST 2012***
Now living in Houston.
First, before I go any farther, two absolutes I have: (1) Please be UNmarried. No offense, but I absolutely will have nothing to do with a married guy or someone in any way involved with another person. Call me old-fashioned, but adultery isn't my thing; and (2) No smokers. I am not an anti-smoking zealot or judgmental; rather, I am highly allergic to cigarette smoke. Even the smell of it on a person--and I can smell it a mile away, trust me--will trigger an allergic reaction. These two are deal-breakers for me.
I used to believe that I was open-minded to any type of relationship--one night stand, FWB, LTR--whatever. However, I cannot and will not hide behind my true feelings. I fully realize that by saying what I'm going to say, I will most likely have precluded 95% of those reading this profile of verbosity from wanting to meet me. I accept that because most importantly, I am being honest and up front. So, I'm laying it all on the line by saying that I am not looking for or wanting a one night stand. I am honestly tired of those, so very tired. A friend of mine, someone whom I met through this site and the best person I HAVE ever met through this site (and a fellow Polish guy, to boot!), recently asked me (I'm paraphrasing him) if I felt as if I did something wrong when I have my little one-time rolls in the hay. I told him no, but in hindsight, I confess I feel as though I'm nothing more than a piece of meat, and I feel as though another piece of my soul has been chipped away.
I am truly looking--hoping and praying--to find someone from this site who would give me the honor of developing a relationship with him. I will, with no hesitation or regret, welcome a good friend, one whom I will see from time to time, one with whom I will socialize, with whom I will talk, etc. Friends are God's greatest gifts to us after life itself. I would NEVER turn down a good friend. However, let me be clear about this--such a person is NOT going to be someone from here I meet on the first date then have sex with, because we all know how that ends--neither of us ever sees or talks to the other again. Been there, done that, don't want it. At all. I desire an LTR or at the least, a good FWB situation.
I freely admit that I am probably sounding quite naïve and totally unrealistic to think that such a person would exist on here. Having met several guys from this site during the latter half of 2011, and having been deeply hurt by a couple, this would tend to bolster people's contention that I'm a naïve fool for sure. Well, one young man whom I met from here recently, this great person to whom I alluded above, has shown me that innately good guys do, in fact, exist here.
My heart, my soul are not desirous of a temporary meet and greet, no matter how superficially satisfying the guy may be to me. I am more concerned about my insides than I am about making my penis feel good. Because of this, I am being blunt and straightforward by fully explaining what--who--I'm looking for on here. I may not ever find the person, but I will hold out hope that he exists. After all, this site isn't Craig's List, so it has at least one thing going for it.
In the end, I really am a caring, loving guy, willing to move Heaven and Earth to accommodate that special guy. I have a unique life in the work that I do and the people I know. I would love nothing more than to have a guy share a part of this with me. I honestly consider it an honor to meet a guy from here, and a bigger honor, a great gift, if we were to become friends or more.
Having said that, I am flattered guys older than me contact me expressing interest, but I am truly not interested in older men, especially those in their 50s and 60s. Sorry, it's just me. I'm open to guys around my age, but generally not older guys. I'm on this site because I do prefer guys in their 20s or 30s. I like the company of younger guys, but younger guys who are mature. Yes, I know that's difficult to find, but I choose to be hopeful. Also, if you don't have a pic, please be prepared to Email me one. After all, I have a bunch of mine here for you to see; it's only fair I have an idea of who is contacting me. If a doofus like me can post pics, then so can you.
I tend to be a straightforward, tell-it-like-it-is kind of guy, probably due to my being a college baseball umpire and a school teacher. I'd rather be honest and direct with someone and suffer immediate rejection as a result of my being like this than to BS someone or beat around the bush, only to be rejected later after having my hopes raised. I don't need any more heartbreak, for I have had a lifetime of that.
I'm a masculine, clean-cut but moderately hairy guy who lives in the west suburbs--Lisle, specifically (that's next door to Naperville for those city folks who don't know life exists beyond the borders of zip code 606XX). While it's a big plus if you are a guy who is also athletic like I am and a big sports nut, especially baseball, that is not a deal-breaker.
In terms of meeting someone, I am a simple guy. Grabbing a coffee or a drink or a bite to eat--all that is perfectly fine with me.
I appreciate your taking the several hours of your time in the effort to read this profile. If we meet and become friends, I will certainly owe you one for making that effort. I hope to hear from you.