Gay Daddy & Bear Blog: Age Appropriate

Official Daddyhunt
February 11, 2014
Category: Gay Culture

One of the great things about being a gay daddy is having the ability to throw down some knowledge at a moment’s notice and show those younger guys a thing or two about the power of experience. Things like telling a great story about a memorable moment in history, or offering words of relationship wisdom to someone who hasn’t lived long enough to have been around the block a few times. But by far one of our favorite things is teaching the twink set some tricks that are a bit more practical: like how to tie a tie, for instance. It’s a skill every good daddy should know! Brush up on your tying technique with the help of these helpful videos, featuring all kinds of classic knots as well as a few we’ve never seen before. (Bonus: they work just as well on a bedpost as they do around your neck!)

Have any good tips of your own? School us in the comments section!

1. The Eldredge Knot

2. The Trinity Knot

3. The Cape Knot

4. The Four-In-Hand Knot 

5. The Merovingian...

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Official MISTER
February 4, 2014
Category: Gay Culture

If you’re a football fanatic (or just like watching beefy athletes in Spandex pat each other on the butt), chances are things got a little rowdy in your living room as you watched the Seattle Seahawks take on the Denver Broncos in this year’s Super Bowl. But no matter how raucous the hooting and hollering got over bad calls, botched plays, and, of course, those crazy commercials, it still paled in comparison to the uproar that was heard from football fans back in 1975, when retired gridiron great David Kopay told a newspaper reporter something no other professional athlete had ever said before: “I’m gay.”

The pigskin hit the fan. Back then, the idea that a macho, muscled football hero who was named an All-American running back and had played for five NFL teams, including Vince Lombardi’s legendary Washington Redskins lineup, was unthinkable. Outraged fans flooded the newspaper that published the story with hate mail, Kopay’s post-retirement football opportunities evaporated overnight, and his former coaches and teammates all but abandoned him.

But the deafening reaction to Kopay’s historic coming-out confession was about to get even louder. In 1975, he published his groundbreaking autobiography, The David Kopay Story: An Extraordinary Self-Revelation, a warts-and-all account of an athlete...

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January 27, 2014
Category: The Arts

The Advocate has been doing a great job with showcasing some incredible artistic talents in the LGBT community as of late, including one of my favorite's John Arsenault. Recently though they featured photographer Vincent Keith's work from his online magazine Mascular and it's a photo series that I think you'll all enjoy. The series features portraits of men with a real honesty in the way they're shot. You can see more of the series here

Keith says:

'Portraitists tend to fall into two categories, those trying to reveal what is hidden and those who try to highlight what is there. I fall into the latter category. I think everything about a character is there to see — plainly. It's just knowing how to look. My objective in taking a portrait is not to 'get behind the veneer' — I question if that is indeed possible or desirable. Do we really see 'truth'? Most people I photograph have no idea what they look like. When you picture yourself in your mind, do you look like the person in the mirror? I certainly don't. A good portrait is a beautiful thing. This may be why I find portraiture the most rewarding area of photography.'"

What artists or photographers not the scene have you been enjoying? Let us know in the comments below.

Official Daddyhunt
January 22, 2014
Category: Entertainment

After months of anticipation, HBO’s new series “Looking” premiered this past Sunday. Reaction so far appears mixed at best, with gays either loving its “honest and realistic” portrayal of a group of twenty- and thirty- something, single gay men in San Francisco, or finding its merry band of rainbow boys and their “gay people problems” unrelatable, clichéd, and (perhaps worst of all for an HBO show) boring.

Show creators Andrew Haigh and Michael Lannan get some things right (more on that later), but just as many things wrong. Like, really wrong. Asking someone if they’re “drug- and disease-free” is, strictly Grindr-speak and unrealistic for an in-person conversation. I’m also sure all the hot, BART-riding Latino guys that have picked me up over the years knew not only how to pronounce the word “oncology” without difficulty but also knew what it meant. Cancer and oncologia are not just white-girl problems.

Minor quibbles, perhaps, for a half-hour comedy, but queens have gotten the boot from “RuPaul’s Drag Race” for far lesser offenses. That being said, “Looking” does get a few things right; namely, its honest depiction of the difficulties we have when it comes to finding our internal, moral, and sexual compasses as we make our way into adulthood.

All of us—homo and hetero alike—grow up under the influence of what society and our parents tell us, from the kind of sex we should have to the kind of relationships we should work toward. But for many gay men and women,...

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January 21, 2014
Category: Sexuality

Maybe it's the winter or grayness the season has cast, but I can't help but fantasize more during dreary weather times. Even my dreams seem to be counteracting the bundling up that these more frequent Polar Vortex's have caused with highly sexualized and fantastical night visions. Whether it's about people I know or celebrities and public figures, my dreams have been on fire lately, causing me to have lingering feelings for this special dream guest for more than just a night. Not to mention the horniness that comes (and stays) with it. So that's why I'm turning to you all to put your fantasies on display in the comments below. They can be anything from an exceptional dream (be it new or recurring), a sexual adventure you're looking to fulfill this year, or even some sort of FanFic pairing that you'd like to see played out on screen. For those of you not familiar with FanFic, it stands for Fan Fiction and it's when a viewer of a movie or TV show writes their own storyline of an already existing property and pairs two characters together. A good example would be Sherlock and Holmes, while not a sexual relationship in most portrayals, in FanFic the two would get hot and heavy and be in a gay relationship. Make sense?

Think of this open post as a fantasy free for all to express anything and everything you want. Who knows, it may catch a Daddy/Hunter's eye and turn fantasy into reality.

Official MISTER
January 16, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Founding Fathers: Alan Turing

From email to Amazon to XTube to reading the blog you're on right now, computers have become so essential to our day-to-day that it’s rather mind-boggling to imagine life without them. So, who exactly do we have to thank for this game-changing gadget? Bill Gates? Good guess. Steve Jobs? Think again. The actual man credited with inventing this game-changing gadget is the original tech titan of the 20th century (and this week’s Gay Founding Father), British mathematician Alan Turing.

Born in London in 1912, Turing’s early years appeared to follow the standard narrative of the classic overachiever—academically driven, introverted (a chronic stuttering condition often left him feeling self-conscious), head constantly buried in a book. But by the time he became a teenager, it was clear this smartypants was something special. His remarkable ability for picking up and deciphering advanced mathematical and scientific concepts (even without ever having formally studied them) attracted attention, and upon graduation, he enrolled at the prestigious King’s College at Cambridge University, where he gained first-class honors in mathematics.

His intellectual acuity in top form, Turin’s reputation for being an original thinker soon solidified with the release of a number of high-profile papers, including a 1935 dissertation on the central limit theorem that earned him a fellowship at King’s (practically unheard of for...

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January 13, 2014
Category: Gay Culture

In a gay world where preference can be mistaken (or used) for discrimination, it's important to highlight that sexiness comes in all forms. Yesterday was National Kiss a Ginger day, a light hearted "awareness day" to give redheads some much deserved love. And as evidence by model Seth Fornea above, red is hot. I wanted to take the opportunity and talk about preference. The truth is, we all have types (a good reason we're on a site called Daddyhunt), but oftentimes people mistake our preferences for being too picky or particular. In the past year, I've tried to broaden my horizons and open myself to other versions of men. I've seen success and had some fun, but in the end, I always come back to where I started. Which begs the question, what's so wrong with knowing what you want?

It can be a good thing to open yourself up to the new and often times this encounters are ripe with unexpected possibility. But I'm wondering if you come across the same kind scrutiny when you wear your preference loud and proud? Do you find that friends often push to try beyond your given type? Have you ever taken someone's preference for a different look than yours personally? Let us know in the comments below and let's talk pref.

Official Daddyhunt
January 9, 2014
Category: Relationships

Now that we've officially dubbed 2014 “The Year of the Daddy,” we hope you’re on your way to achieving the goals (don’t call them resolutions!) you’ve set for yourself to help make the next 365 days as daddylicious as they can be. Not that it’s going to be easy. Truth is, some of the biggest self-improvement promises we make to ourselves—eating better, getting in shape, building healthier relationships—are way easier said than done. But hang in there, guys, we’re gonna do our best to help you stay on track!

Okay, we can’t promise to snatch that donut out of your hand or make sure you get your butt to the gym three times a week, but if you need some advice on keeping your love life in tip-top shape, listen up! Better yet, listen to what MISTER CEO and our resident relationship expert, Carl Sandler, had to say about some of the unique challenges of daddy dating—including mismatched sex drives, uneven incomes, and dealing with disapproving family and friends—during his latest appearance on Sirius OutQ’s “The Morning Jolt with Larry Flick” radio show. Whether you’re determined to land yourself a dashing daddy, test the relationship waters with a strapping younger buck, or make your current daddy-son situation stronger in 2014, this is a must-listen.

Click the play button below to hear how it all went down. Also, be sure to check out these inspiring examples of...

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January 7, 2014
Category: Gay Culture
Gay Republicans: When Is Outing Okay?

It's been a high profile week in outing. From Super Bowl Champ Aaron Rodgers to two (or more) alleged Hobbit stars, people seem to be breaking down closet doors that are not their own. And while it would be nice to add NFL players and a few more actors to the team roster, there's one outing in question that our community could do with out: the gay republican hypocrite. In this particular case, it's Republican Congressman Aaron Shock, who's been outed this week by noted CBS journalist Itay Hod. In a not-so-blind item on his Facebook page, he poses the question of when it's right to out someone. Citing Shock's disgraceful anti-gay voting history, he sees fit to call this gay man out for all the world to see. And I agree with Hod - if you discreetly come to our community looking for "our services" and then turn around and openly plot against us, you need to be brought down. That kind of hypocrisy should be out in the open.

There's a lot at stake when you're a public figure. In many cases, your livelihood depends on little more than your image and how the public perceives you. I would love for every closeted man to come out (public or otherwise) but understand...

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January 2, 2014
Category: Wellness
2014 The Year of the Daddy

Resolutions come and go, but tag lines they stay with you. That's why this year, instead of making a list of things we want to change, why not create a year long thematic that will propel you through the year and keep you on track. For example, I deemed 2013 as "The Year of Change" for me on January 1, 2013. And in the span of a year the universe delivered, and then some. From moving, to getting a new job, to incredible new adventures, it was a year filled with all kinds of change - even when I wasn't actively seeking it. I not only learned the value in taking charge of my life and creating change for myself, but the beauty of accepting the things I cannot change. Because of that, 2013 was a great success. But 2014 is here, which means a new theme for a new year.

I find it easier to use this broader thematic to start with and make sure that all your actions line up to it. Whether that's creating a list of goals (not resolutions) or just checking your actions against the theme, it's an easy way to stay on track for the year and help manifest your own year long destiny.

So with that, I say to all of you out there, let's make 2014 The Year of the Daddy. I want you all to have the best year of your life and make 2014 a year to remember. Let us know in the comments below what your year long thematic will be and what you want to accomplish. Having it in writing will not only hold you accountable, but there's a surprising power in written words that tend to have magic all on their own.

Looking forward to an incredible and unforgettably blissful 2014...